Naija Chikita
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
Private Lives
So, i was watching HOUSE M.D. (which i love, by the way) on Monday and i realised something....
WE ALL HAVE SECRETS!
So, if u watch house, and u watched Episode 14 of Season 6, with the same title as my post, then you might just see where my inspiration for this post materializes...
I mean, this woman is a famous blogger and basically blogs about her life, but leaves out clues to her ailment (Wilson's Disease)....
So why do we blog?
To vent out our true feelings to strangers....
i mean, most of my inner thoughts and fears are known by only me and God ofcourse...
But really...
Most of the time we think we know somebody but we actually don't.
Most of the time we actually think we have no secrets, but we do....
Often times our secrets is no "wow factor" look at a celeb's life for instance....... all the sneaky behavior behind closed doors that when revealed, we go..... NOOOO, HOW COULD YOU.
But the truth of the matter is, it is not uncommon.
Whatever our secrets may be, someone else out there has gone thru the very same. they might had been ashamed of it and hid it (like you did) or are comfortable with talking about it)
Think about it.
When peeps who know me personally, started reading my blog, what my writing changed
I'd write about things they already know (maybe they vaguely have an idea but they know about it)
Certain things i completely leave out.....
Back in the day, there were diaries (well they are still online diaries) but even those aren't safe..... someone is bound to figure out your inner workings.....
So why keep the secret(s) in the first place?
Does it make us feel better about ourselves because deep down we do know that we care about how we are viewed by others?
Why don't we want certain aspects of our lives out there in the open?
I'm sitting in my bed typing away and i still can't figure out why i don't say what's always on my mind..... what i feel, want, have been through, go through, will go through, my fears, my hopes, my dreams....
Why can't i?
I'm a very secretive person. i keep my thoughts close to my heart. My mom says that's a problem. who is to say what is a problem and what isnt?
i tell myself that it's because i find it hard to trust, but is it really? Or is it because i want people to perceive me under a certain light?
i could ramble on and on on this subject (if you let me), but the bottom line still remains,
WHY DO WE KEEP SECRETS? IS IT JUST A HUMAN THING?
WE ALL HAVE SECRETS!
So, if u watch house, and u watched Episode 14 of Season 6, with the same title as my post, then you might just see where my inspiration for this post materializes...
I mean, this woman is a famous blogger and basically blogs about her life, but leaves out clues to her ailment (Wilson's Disease)....
So why do we blog?
To vent out our true feelings to strangers....
i mean, most of my inner thoughts and fears are known by only me and God ofcourse...
But really...
Most of the time we think we know somebody but we actually don't.
Most of the time we actually think we have no secrets, but we do....
Often times our secrets is no "wow factor" look at a celeb's life for instance....... all the sneaky behavior behind closed doors that when revealed, we go..... NOOOO, HOW COULD YOU.
But the truth of the matter is, it is not uncommon.
Whatever our secrets may be, someone else out there has gone thru the very same. they might had been ashamed of it and hid it (like you did) or are comfortable with talking about it)
Think about it.
When peeps who know me personally, started reading my blog, what my writing changed
I'd write about things they already know (maybe they vaguely have an idea but they know about it)
Certain things i completely leave out.....
Back in the day, there were diaries (well they are still online diaries) but even those aren't safe..... someone is bound to figure out your inner workings.....
So why keep the secret(s) in the first place?
Does it make us feel better about ourselves because deep down we do know that we care about how we are viewed by others?
Why don't we want certain aspects of our lives out there in the open?
I'm sitting in my bed typing away and i still can't figure out why i don't say what's always on my mind..... what i feel, want, have been through, go through, will go through, my fears, my hopes, my dreams....
Why can't i?
I'm a very secretive person. i keep my thoughts close to my heart. My mom says that's a problem. who is to say what is a problem and what isnt?
i tell myself that it's because i find it hard to trust, but is it really? Or is it because i want people to perceive me under a certain light?
i could ramble on and on on this subject (if you let me), but the bottom line still remains,
WHY DO WE KEEP SECRETS? IS IT JUST A HUMAN THING?
18 Comments:
I totally agreed...anonymous or not our writings are still screened and filtered. Sometimes I dnt want to be wrongly judged, I feel people won't totally understand the circumstance, and sometimes it is scary to allow strangers or even friends know the ins and outs of one's life. We want to be able to hold on to some part of it, and not share it. And then other times when other ppl r involved like in relationships or friendships, we owe it to the other parties involved to not put out there certain info that concerns them too...
I dnt knw if this mkes sense but...I get wat u saying.
*I totally agree... not agreed lol #gbagaun
I agree jare my sister.But i am not so secretive sha, but learning to be. the way everybody says ah, you dont know who is chasing you oh, dont tell anyone u have a relationship. dont tell anyone when you get engaged, bla bla bla.
anyway, back to the topic, i guess blogging helps us reveal our true innermost feeling.
I think it's a human thing though we each have different tolerance levels. Blogging sure helps us to come out of our shell. But the mistake we make sometimes is thinking that we can tell the totality of a person from their posts. \that can't be further from the truth.
long time sha, how you dey?
what more do we have if we dont have our secrets?
this is why i read postsecrets cos its awesome to see what people will say under the guise of anonymity.
U knw, i REALLY tried and tried, i did. but there was just no sugar-coated short-cut to this saying this.
Chyoma, just tell me honestly, WHERE DA BLAZING F*** HAVE U BEEN????
Hmm, ok, i had to get that outa my system. I mean, i never knew i had it in me to stalk people's blog, but, well... shucks, forget it.
About secrets, c'mon, u can't tell me u r proud of everything u've done in your life. Nobody likes to be seen as "bad" or "odd", hence the secrecy. So its a measure of how much u care (or don't care) what people say/think, and to some extent too, how heinous or grievous your secret deed is.
("heinous", lol...)
That makes two of us. I love House MD.
... 'So why keep the secret(s) in the first place?' I believe secrets are kept when we can't find someone to share our stories with. Someone who would understand, not judge us and not betray our confidence.
... 'Why don't we want certain aspects of our lives out there in the open?' Because we do not like to be judged.
Great post. Really personal.
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we keep secrets cos we r afraid pple's perception of us will change, makes us vulnerable when people know certain stuff etc
i am not really secretive, i try to make big deals out of things that happen to me but i sure do know how to keep stuff about other people to myself, even if they didnt ask me to.
i have my secrets...
yes
most times they are not a big deal
but it is part of what makes me who
i am.
i'll tell though if it would do any good.
i like your posts!
Hey Sweetie,
Well, it's time to come back home to my blogs! Mista Jaycee
Muwahh!
I like the question "So why keep the secret(s) in the first place?" I guess it is the fear that something we did, know, or think is not going to be acceptable by "the world". Secrets are one set of baggage I dont carry about. I ensure I tell something that should have been a secret to atleast one person, afterall they say nothing is hidden under the sun.
Maybe the woman who has Wilson's disease blogs to forget about it. Maybe in her real life she is always reminded of her ailment so by blogging she escapes that.
I know when I had a personal blog I had purely strangers reading it and I could divulge every single thought without fear of being judged or anyone getting upset with me... gradually people I knew started finding the blog and it wasn't the same I felt censored. I was still me but an altered muted version... Anyway those days are long gone. Me ready for part 2
MIA BABE INTL!
I'd tell you when you blog regularly
Vexing for you o..
Really..
No responses...
naija chic!
chayoma where art thou? Missed your blog oh.
Blessings.....
I have always said that you never know someone 100% even if you were married for 50 years.
There are somethings that is just between you and the divine master.
I too love house.
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